If you can get a handle on the things on this list, I guarantee
you'll notice your relationship drastically change for the
better.
Here you go:
1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman. It's a
man's nature to look, getting on his case shows you're
insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself
getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you
need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it,
there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need
to build up your self-esteem.
2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or
doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most
guys don't like to talk about their issues the way women do.
They prefer to pull back and work things out internally.
3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go. It really
is a shame to see how many women think it's okay to stop
working out and shaving their legs as soon as they're in a
relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to
make the effort once things are more settled to keep the
attraction alive and intimate energy buzzing.
4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who
forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a
man, it never ends well.
5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more
straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong
and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you
further, you'll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be
honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.
6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving
you every single thing you need. There will be times when
you're not happy with something he's doing. If this happen,
do not nag him over it. The best strategy is to tell him what it
is you want (I love it when you do X) instead of harping on
what you don't want (Why don't you ever do Y?)
7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he
isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then
acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show
you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.
8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's
understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and
be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a
negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are
happy and radiate a positive energy.
Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your
life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in
your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.
9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if
you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny
wrinkle by your mouth, these are your issues and hang ups
so don't turn them into relationship problems.
If he's with you, it's a given that he finds you attractive. Don't
talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws.
Chances are he won't even notice these things until you point
them out, so why draw attention to them? Men are attracted to
confident women so not only will you be making him a ware
of your flaws, you'll be diminishing his overall attraction to
you.
10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,
you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who
you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it.
When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears
running shoes with dress pants, be gentle and encouraging.
Don't criticise and make him feel silly. Say something that
makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change
on his own, for instance "You look really sexy in that outfit
but it would be even sexier with those loafers instead."
Lots Of Love.
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